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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #14: Compound effect of behavior skills](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/episode-14-adhd-behavior-skills-compound-effect_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Jun 25, 2019
Ep #14: Compound effect of behavior skills
Tuesday Jun 25, 2019
Tuesday Jun 25, 2019
The compound effect of behavior skills does exist. Thousands of families have seen how using one behavior skill then another behavior skill has a compound effect to reduce behavior problems and increase feelings of trust and love.
When implementing new behavior skills for kids you will not see the compound effect of changing behavior overnight, but you will see them. Some families see small changes in a few weeks, where other families have to work on it for months before they notice those same changes. That’s okay. Each family and each child is different and will learn and progress at different rates.
This is especially true for a child with ADHD who make need longer to grasp a concept or an idea.
Investing the time to change your child’s behavior is just like investing in your 401K. You know if that if you are consistent in contributing just a little to your 401 K eventually you’ll that little effort will have a big pay-off. The same principle applies to your child.
Your objective is to make small incremental changes that have a lasting impact. Those changes will come if you are consistent in using behavior skills for kids. Sometimes you won’t be able to notice those changes until you reflect back on where you are now vs. where you were when you started.
Your child may still tantrum when told no. Instead of having an hour-long tantrum that involved violence to others they may now only tantrum for 15 minutes and not resort to violence. While it may not feel like a win because they are still tantruming, it is! Their ability to reduce their length of tantrums and better control their emotions shows the compound effects of behavior skills to improve life.
This is especially true in behavior management. When you are changing behavior, you will notice that the compound effect of behavior skills is far-reaching. You will hear your children use their behavior skills on their siblings, their friends, and even strangers.
One of the biggest responsibilities of a parent is of parents as teachers. You are here to help guide, shape, and encourage your child. Children don’t always know how to handle the world, so it’s up to you to show them how. It’s okay for your child to be angry, sad, or disappointed. What is not okay is how they respond to those feelings of anger, sadness, or disappointment.
Behavior problems don’t have to be a constant struggle. There is a better way. It’s using the behavior skills of the Teaching-Family Model. When used together, they will have a compound effect on your child and your relationship and will help them find success.
![Ep #13: Why practice leads to success](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/role-playing-success-TFM_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
Ep #13: Why practice leads to success
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
Tuesday Jun 18, 2019
As every actor, musician, or athlete knows, practice leads to success. In today’s podcast, ADHD parenting coach, Siope Kinikini discusses the fifth element of the Teaching-Family Model, Role-playing.
Role-playing is one of the most important, but often overlooked, tool in raising successful kids. Role-playing allows a child to practice new behavior over and over again until they feel confident in handling whatever situation they are placed in. When children have confidence in their ability to handle situations because they’ve practiced it, you’re allowing them to make better decisions and to take responsibility for the decisions they are making.
We offer parental guidance when we encourage our children to practice reading or homework, or piano over and over again so they can master it. Mastering behavior is no different. We can shape new behaviors by Role-playing new behavior.
What happens to the brain when we learn something new is that new pathways are created. The more we repeat the action--whether that’s the piano or Role-playing--the stronger those pathways become until the new action becomes second nature in our brains.
Because children are learning how to navigate the world, they need a lot of practice, especially when it comes to behavior. The Teaching-Family Model is different than other behavior models in that the parent will model the behavior first. This modeling is useful in helping kids navigate life as they see how it’s done and aren’t left to guess what they should be doing. By structuring Role-plays, you are helping your child understand the importance of practicing while keeping them from getting too overwhelmed with all they are learning.
The behavior skill of Role-playing shows you what elements should be included to make Role-plays successful. Visit Smarter Parenting.com to watch the Role-playing skills lesson.
Children don’t always like to practice. Turning Role-plays into a game is one of the best ways to get your child motivated to practice as games and activities don’t always feel like practicing. For example, playing the game Simon Says is a way to Role-play. In the game, you’re practicing both the skill of Effective Communication aka listening and Following Instructions. We'd wager you child wouldn't even recognize that they're Role-playing.
Role-plays don’t have to be huge productions to be successful. What makes Role-plays successful is their repetition.
Remember, practice leads to success!
![Ep #12: How to teach behavior skills](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/quality-components-how-to-teach-behavioral-skills_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
Ep #12: How to teach behavior skills
Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
Tuesday Jun 11, 2019
In today’s episode, ADHD Parenting Coach, Siope Kinikini talks about how quality components are the strength of the Teaching-Family Model and how to teach behavior skills.
We firmly believe that how to teach behavior skills is an individualized process. We want parents and families to find and use what works for them. What works for you to teach your child may not work for someone else. It’s okay to be flexible and to remember that you can make changes.
There are steps that parents as teachers can utilize when it comes to teaching behavior skills so that they get the desired result. Parents need to understand the elements of the Teaching-Family Model before they’re able to teach behavior skills to their child. As a parent, your job is to guide them and encourage them while showing them how to do it.
You are the expert for your child as you know your child the best and how you need to approach teaching behavior skills. You’ve been there through their highs and their lows.
Working with a young child is different than working with a teenager. The elements of the Teaching-Family Model allow you to make adjustments for age difference or when something isn’t working for your child.
Working with your ADHD child will require a different approach, but what you teach them will be the same. The quality component of being able to adjust to your child’s need is what will make you successful. When you adapt your teaching to your child’s need, you are strengthening your relationship as your child will know that you’re concerned with them and their needs.
Part of teaching behavior skills is being aware of your approach. Are you using a pleasant voice? Are you clear in your instructions? Are you giving simple enough instructions? You model the behavior you want in your child. If you want them to be calm, you need to be calm. If you want them to give you eye contact, you need to get down on their level and give them eye contact.
How to teach behavior skills isn’t as scary as you may think it is. We’ve seen other parents do this and have complete confidence that you can do it too!
![Ep #11: What is the Teaching-Family Model?](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/teaching-family-model-smarter-parenting_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
Ep #11: What is the Teaching-Family Model?
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
Tuesday Jun 04, 2019
What is the Teaching-Family Model is a common question that we get asked frequently? The Teaching-Family Model is an evidence-based behavioral approach that’s been used by professionals and families for over fifty years. It's helped thousands of children and to empower families by teaching them how to be successful.
The elements of the Teaching-Family Model that ADHD parenting coach Siope Kinikini teaches in the ADHD Smarter Parenting Podcasts, have been proven to give parents and tools they need to help their children navigate life in a healthy way.
In the 1960s, a group of psychologists (Elaine and Elery Phillips, Dean Fixsen, Montrose Wolf, Gary Timbers) were interested in how better help troubled children and juvenile offenders in group home settings. They wanted to know what made families successful and if they could replicate what they did.
As they implement specific behavior skills in group homes, they found these children had fewer run-ins with the law, reduced dropout rates, with improved grades and attendance.
They realized they could teach anybody how to be a successful parent by teaching specific behavior skills, and the Teaching-Family Model was born. Utah Youth Village, the parent company of Smarter Parenting, was an early adopter of the Teaching-Family Model. Using the Teaching-Family Model, Utah Youth Village's programs have provided relief and healing to thousands of families.
The Teaching-Family Model shows parents how to best deal with challenging behavior in a way that strengthens, teaches, and builds relationships instead of tearing down relationships.
The Teaching-Family Model views children’s behavior problems as stemming from their lack of essential interpersonal relationships and skills.
The Teaching-Family Model reduces feelings of anger and frustration as it gives you the blueprint for dealing with their behavior. The Teaching-Family Model removes the emotion from the situation. It allows your child take responsibility for their actions as it shows them they have something to gain by improving their behavior.
Thousands and thousands of parents, grandparents, caregivers, and teachers with problems big and small, have used the behavior skills of the Teaching-Family Model to help their child be successful.
Parents have used the Teaching-Family Model because they want to reduce episodes of tantrums, angry outbursts, lying, and fights every time they ask their child to do something. Parents used it because they don’t want to be that parent who screams or yells all the time. Parents use it because they want to feel like they have control. Parents use it because they want their child not to be defined by their diagnosis. Parents use it because they found that it works.
What is the Teaching-Family Model? The Teaching-Family Model is change. The Teaching-Family Model is proven. The Teaching-Family Model works. We know the Teaching-Family Model works because we have seen first-hand its impact on families.
Smarter Parenting is a division of Utah Youth Village. Learn more about the Utah Youth Village and the Teaching-Family Model and how it helps families visit https://www.smarterparenting.com/team/