August 10, 2022
Many parents give a consequence expecting it will stop the behavior and are surprised when it doesn't.
Giving an effective consequence isn't easy. In fact, for a consequence to work, it needs to include five key elements: Immediacy, Size, Frequency, Importance, and Varied.
The best way to teach a child isn't through consequences. Because consequences focus on the negative, they can damage your relationships with your child and cause them to have issues with self-esteem and self-doubt. The best way to get a child to create lasting change is through rewards.
Rewards give a child power and encouragement to change because it focuses on what they will receive. Rewards build relationships and set your child up for success.
For more information about giving consequences or rewards, visit SmarterParenting.com
August 4, 2022
Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini answers more parenting questions about children who struggle with out-of-control behaviors. Such as why it takes a child with ADHD so much time to do simple tasks. How children with ADHD are motivated differently than neurotypical children. Concerns about the future of children with ADHD.
July 28, 2022
Siope answers questions parents have sent in to Smarter Parenting regarding how to deal with various issues such as: co-parenting, constant arguing, how to use rewards effectively, why boys are more frequently diagnosed with ADHD as opposed to girls, etc.
July 20, 2022
Kids with ADHD can have difficulty setting and accomplishing goals.
In today's podcast, ADHD expert Siope Kinikini shares three things that will help a child, or anyone, with ADHD, be successful when establishing goals.
The three things covered are:
How to set appropriate goals.
Basing outcomes on feelings vs. actions
We want to give our children the tools to handle school, work, and relationships. When they use the skill of Decision Making (SODAS Method), they are using those tools that will allow them to find success.
You can learn more about Decision Making on Smarter Parenting.
July 13, 2022
In our series, we are reviewing the skill of Observe and Describe and how it helps bring clarity to communication between parents and children. This helps both the parent and child reach better understanding in both positive and negative situations that can lead to better communication and the resolution to problems.
July 6, 2022
For the next few weeks, we will review the skills taught on Smarterparenting.com.
This week we are focusing on the ABC's of Behavior.
The ABC's of Behavior is a tool parents can use to figure out why a behavior is happening and then take the appropriate steps to keep the behavior from happening again or promoting repeat behavior.
The ABC's of Behavior stands for:
A-Antecedent. The Antecedent is what was happening before the behavior.
B-Behavior. It is what happened or the action.
C-Consequence. This is what follows after the behavior. It can be either positive or negative.
When parents can understand why a specific behavior is happening, it is easier to address the root cause in a way that helps a child learn and grow.
Visit SmarterParenting.com for more information about The ABC's of Behavior
June 22, 2022
Do you ever feel like electronics are taking over your child's life? Do they have a problem getting off their phone, tablet, computer, game, or TV?
It can be tricky to help our children learn how to use electronics appropriately, as we must teach them how to use them in a beneficial and not harmful way for their growth.
In today's podcast, Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini discusses ways to set boundaries around electronics and their usage.
One of the things families can do is use the SODAS Method to determine how and when members should use electronic devices. When we make it a family decision, they don't feel like there is a double standard with one set of rules for grown-ups and another set for kids.
You can learn more about the SODAS Method by visiting the Smarter Parenting Website and watching the Decision Making Video.
June 15, 2022
Have you ever tried to get your child to clean their room, and they aren't interested, and that lack of interest causes tension, and you don't want all that tension?
Motiving your child can be incredibly frustrating.
The SODAS Method can make helping your child easier.
Everyone is either motivated by intrinsic or external factors. When we do something because we like doing that activity, that is called intrinsic motivation. External motivation is when we don't necessarily like doing the action but want what comes from it. For example, we may not enjoy studying for a test, but we like the grade we get when we do.
Understanding how and what motivates our children can make a world of difference--especially when it comes to having them do things they may not like or want to do.
It's why we love using the SODAS Method, as it helps us determine what the best way to motivate our children is. The SODAS Method can be tailored to specific situations and children as each child is different in what will encourage them. You may have a child who will do homework without external motivation because they like the process of learning. In contrast, you may have a child who needs external motivation because the learning process isn't enough.
You can find more about the SODAS Method on the Smarter Parenting website.
June 8, 2022
Bedtime can be a battlefield for most families but especially for families managing ADHD. But, why is it a fight? What needs to change? Do you as the parent have appropriate expectations? In this episode we break bedtime into three different phases, after listening consider what phase isn't going well in your home. You can focus on one area or you can dive into a bedtime makeover and tackle all three. Whatever you decide, one of your greatest tools is consistency so remain consistent and your bedtime will improve.
June 1, 2022
Join Siope in talking about the brain and how Role Playing makes a big difference when learning new things.