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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #81: Reduce frustration with Preventive Teaching: Part 2](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-81-reduce-frustration-with-preventive-teaching-part-two_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 29, 2020
Ep #81: Reduce frustration with Preventive Teaching: Part 2
Wednesday Apr 29, 2020
Wednesday Apr 29, 2020
Let ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini help you be the parent you want to be. Join the Smarter Parenting Club.
https://club.smarterparenting.com/
The behavior skill of Preventive Teaching isn’t just for kids; they are FAMILY skills.
In part two of our Preventive Teaching journey with Dawn, ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini teaches how behavior skills are just as powerful when parents apply them to themselves. That’s the strength of the behavior skills of the Teaching-Family Model. The behavior skills can be applied to kids; the behavior skills can be applied to adults. It doesn’t matter. They will work.
The goal of Preventive Teaching is to help prepare us for situations that may arise. If we do the prep work before we cook, or paint, or pack for a vacation, the actual cooking, painting, and packing are easier.
In Dawn’s case, Preventive Teaching helped her deal with a self-soothing behavior from her son that annoyed her and lead to decreased patience and increased frustration.
Because the self-soothing behavior wasn’t going to go away, Dawn needed ways to prevent her reaction to it. She didn’t want to be this parent who was frustrated and upset every time the behavior happened. With guidance from Siope Kinikini, she implemented strategies that allowed her to remain focused and calm when the behavior was happening.
Implementing Preventive Teaching helped her be a better parent. It helped her be the parent she wanted to be.
Admitting that we need help because our children’s behaviors are beyond our abilities doesn’t mean that we are a bad parent or that we don’t love them. Understanding that you need help is a sign of just how much you do love your children. When we are in the thick of a parenting struggle, it can be hard to see solutions or improvements. We need someone else to offer us guidance and reassurance. That’s what a Parenting Coach does. From their unique position outside of the problem, they can guide you. They help you see what needs to change and gives you to behavior skills you to make the change happen. They will encourage you when it gets tough or overwhelming. They are your ally in parenting. They want you and your family to improve!
Parenting Coaching helps parents set goals for their specific needs and situations. It is very individualized and customized to your family.
It can be scary to admit that you need help, and we applaud parents who do. These coaching sessions will help you get to where you want to be faster. They will remove the trial and error that can be frustrating and exhausting. If you’re ready to move your family forward, join the Smarter Parenting club. https://club.smarterparenting.com/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #80: Reduce frustration with Preventive Teaching: Part 1](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/episode-80-reduce-frustration-preventive-teaching-part-1_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 22, 2020
Ep #80: Reduce frustration with Preventive Teaching: Part 1
Wednesday Apr 22, 2020
Wednesday Apr 22, 2020
Let us help you take Preventive Teaching to the next level. Join the Smarter Parenting Club.
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Do you feel frustrated with your child’s behavior? Do you find yourself reacting to situations in a way where you feel like you’re a terrible parent? Do you wish there was a better way that would help you be the parent you want to be?
The magic tool is the Teaching-Family Model. The Teaching-Family Model has incredible power to show you how to become the parent you want to be!
When parents have skills and tools, they can be proactive instead of reactive. When a parent is proactive, they are in charge and can guide their child’s behavior. When a parent is reactive, the child is actually in charge, and we’re just reacting to their behavior. When we are proactive, we can reduce feelings of frustration. We can spend less time dealing with problems. We can help our kids successfully navigate the world. We can put our time and energy into strengthening relationships.
For parents who are always feeling frustrated, Preventive Teaching is life-saver.
Parents can regain control. Preventive Teaching helps families prevent problems before they arise as it allows parents to teach expectations in a way a child understands.
This idea is so important. Many parents believe that children should know how to act how they want them to act. Spoiler alert; They don’t. Children need to be taught and they need to be taught at their level.
At their level means keeping it doable for them. It means breaking it down into steps and practicing with them until they can do it before adding more steps. Our goal is to help them find success.
By teaching what it is we want, and then making sure they can do what it is we want, parents can reduce the majority of the problems they face.
Preventive Teaching is used on behaviors both big and small. While Preventive Teaching requires work at the beginning, the payoff is less work down the road.
In today’s episode, ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini shows parents how to reduce those feelings of frustration by making meaningful changes in how they teach their children. There’s no better time than now to become a proactive parent instead of a reactive parent. Doing so will change the trajectory of your family.
For full transcript and show notes visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #79: Learning new behavior through continued practice](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/learning-new-behavior-through-continued-practice_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 15, 2020
Ep #79: Learning new behavior through continued practice
Wednesday Apr 15, 2020
Wednesday Apr 15, 2020
Let us guide you on how to make Role-playing effective for your family. Join the Smarter Parenting Club!
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If you want a behavior to stick, you have to Role-play again and again until that behavior becomes ingrained in your child. While the idea of Role-playing continually may sound overwhelming, we can promise that doing it will pay off huge for your child.
Role-playing helps your child transition ideas from the abstract to the concrete. It moves them from just hearing something to understanding something.
Cued practice allows you to see if your child can apply what they have practiced in real life. Cued practice is when you tell your child you will be practicing at a later time to see how much they understand. It takes a lot of practice to change behavior and your child may struggle in the cued practices. That’s to be expected. Praise them for what they did well and then continue practicing. They will get it eventually.
Role-playing is so essential that it is used in every behavior skill taught on Smarter Parenting. We recommend getting a good handle on what Role-playing is and how you use it.
If you haven’t checked out the Role-playing skill lesson page, we advocate that you do. There you will find a video lesson that walks you through the steps as well as resources that will help you teach the skill to your child. The more comfortable you are with the behavior skill of Role-playing the easier it will be to teach your children how to Role-play.
https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/role-playing/
ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini has discussed the importance of Role-playing in previous podcast episodes. We recommend listening to them again.
Ep #71: Changing the brain through Role-playing
Ep #48: What it takes to change behavior
Ep #13: Why practice leads to success
We know that Role-playing can feel awkward at times. Stick with it. It will get better and it will change your family. Start by Role-playing situations that are comfortable before moving up to more difficult situations.
We can’t stress enough how much power there is in Role-playing.
For full transcript and show notes visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #78: Creating a growth mindset in kids using Praise Approximations](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/creating-growth-mindset-in-kids-praise-appromixation_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 08, 2020
Ep #78: Creating a growth mindset in kids using Praise Approximations
Wednesday Apr 08, 2020
Wednesday Apr 08, 2020
Creating a growth mindset for kids is one of the greatest things parents can teach their kids. A growth mindset is helping kids understand expectations while allowing them not to be perfect. Effective Praise helps parents do just that as it shows a child what they are doing well and why continuing that behavior would be beneficial to them.
Harnessing the power of praise isn’t just for when kids are doing it all right as parents’ expectations don’t always match their child’s ability. By using Praise Approximations, parents are able to meet them where they are at, which encourages kids to grow and learn even when they fall short of parents’ expectations.
Praise Approximations are especially helpful when kids are throwing a tantrum or feel overwhelmed as they help pull kids out of what is happening and gives them an off-ramp for their feelings.
Effective Praise, and Praise Expectations, are powerful tools to help teach our kids. We recommend listening to podcast #76,77 to learn more about how Effective Praise creates a growth mindset for kids.
Sign up for a free 15-minute mini-session: https://www.smarterparenting.com/coaching/
To learn more about Effective Praise visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/effective-praise/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #77: How I learned to help my ADHD kid with Eric Bjorklund](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/how-i-learned-to-help-my-ADHD-kid_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 01, 2020
Ep #77: How I learned to help my ADHD kid with Eric Bjorklund
Wednesday Apr 01, 2020
Wednesday Apr 01, 2020
As parents, we may love our child, but not always like them. We may think they are a “bad” kid who only does wrong. We may believe that the only way to change them is by punishing them.
While this type of thinking is common, it isn’t helpful and will end up doing incredible damage to our relationship with them.
We get that some children can be hard. They know how to push our buttons. Once we start seeing the bad in our children, it can be easy to continue to see all they are doing wrong.
Learning how to parent isn’t easy. The good news is that the behavior skills taught on Smarter Parenting have been proven to repair relationships.
In today’s podcast, Eric Bjorklund talks about how the skills of Smarter Parenting and the Teaching-Family Model changed how he parented and how those changes made an incredible difference in the relationship with his son.
Before Eric started using the skills of the Teaching-Family Model, he didn’t like his kid with ADHD. All he could see where the “bad” things his child was doing. He thought that he could make his child good by “punishing them.” What it was doing was creating barriers between him and his child, and he didn’t like where it was going.
By learning Effective Praise, he was able to see the good in his child. Once he started seeing the good, he started liking his child. That shift set his relationship with his child on a new and positive path.
You can come to learn to like your child!
If you need guidance on how to do it, reach out to Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini; he can show you how to turn around your relationships.
Sign up for a free 15-minute mini-session: https://www.smarterparenting.com/coaching/
To learn more about Effective Praise visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/effective-praise/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/