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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #89: Special episode-Helping your kids navigate what is happening in the world](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-89-helping-your-kid-navigate-what-is-happening-in-the-world_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 24, 2020
Ep #89: Special episode-Helping your kids navigate what is happening in the world
Wednesday Jun 24, 2020
Wednesday Jun 24, 2020
In this special episode, Siope Kinikini discusses how parents can help their children navigate what is happening in the world.
Giving your kids the tools they need to handle what they are hearing, seeing, and experiencing is vital. When kids have tools, they can thrive and make a difference, despite what is happening around them. These tools will be one of the most important things you can do as a parent.
Children will have a lot of feelings about what is going on and the skill of Effective Communication allows them to process and express those feelings in a healthy way. Siope Kinikini gives you three essential things to do that will make this communication effective and powerful.
Take a listen. And then listen again and again and involve your kids.
For full show notes and more information about Effective Communication, visit https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #88: Dealing with frustrating situations](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-88-dealing-with-frustrating-situations_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 17, 2020
Ep #88: Dealing with frustrating situations
Wednesday Jun 17, 2020
Wednesday Jun 17, 2020
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When dealing with frustrating situations where our kids misbehave, it can be easy to become emotionally engaged and default to yelling, annoyance, or anger. When we respond that way, it only makes the situation worse and often creates additional problems.
Wouldn’t you like something that would keep you from becoming engaged in that way? What if we told you a simple skill could help?
The skill of Observe and Describe is something that you can do today. Instead of engaging in your child’s negative behavior, you observe what is happening and calmly state what you see without judgment. For example, if your child is rolling their eyes and making faces at you, you would say, “You are rolling your eyes and making faces at me.” When you state just the facts, it allows your child to understand what they are doing. It also keeps you from getting emotional.
Remaining calm allows you to lead the dance instead of reacting to the situation. How powerful is that? Powerful. By changing how we respond to situations, we change the outcome and improve our relationships.
We teach our kids that there is a better way to respond that doesn’t have to be driven by emotions.
Observe and Describe can be used on everybody we have interactions with.
You can find the skill on the Smarter Parenting website. https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/observe-and-describe/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #87: Understanding what causes tantrums](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-87-understanding-what-causes-tantrums_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 10, 2020
Ep #87: Understanding what causes tantrums
Wednesday Jun 10, 2020
Wednesday Jun 10, 2020
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In today’s episode, Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini continues the discussion of The ABC’s of Behavior and how it can help you create a happier family life.
When you can understand why behavior happens, it is easier to take steps to prevent it. Sometimes though, it can be hard to figure out why behavior happens. In those cases, Siope Kinikini recommends looking at five things that could have contributed to the meltdown.
Are they sleepy? Are they getting enough good sleep?
Are they hungry? Are they eating a healthy diet?
Do they have a disability?
Was there a change in their environment?
Was there an interruption to their schedule?
Understanding that these things could lead to tantrums allows you to make changes before the tantrums even happen.
If they’re tired, you could have them do quiet time, nap, or watch a TV show. If they are hungry, you could give them a snack and set up a snack schedule. If they have a hard time processing things due to a disability, you could provide them with space and understanding that allows them not to become overwhelmed. If there is a change in the environment, you can acknowledge that it can be difficult and help prepare them before changes happen. If there’s an interruption to the schedule, you can reduce interruptions, set a timer for transitions, or finish certain tasks.
All of these things take less work and energy than dealing with a tantrum once it’s begun and allows you to have the energy to spend on creating a relationship. If you’re not spending as much time dealing with tantrums, you can play a game, or read a book, or go out with friends.
The ABC’s of Behavior is incredibly powerful in helping you understand your child. It’s even more powerful when applied to yourself. You can use the ABC’s of Behavior to determine how you react to certain behaviors and what you can do to change it, you will be happier and more in control of situations.
Applying the ABC’s of Behavior to ourselves can be uncomfortable. If you are struggling to figure out your antecedents, join the Smarter Parenting Club. Our coaching sessions are a judgment-free zone where we help you figure out individual solutions.
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For complete show notes and transcript visit https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #86: Why kids act up](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-86-why-kids-act-up_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 03, 2020
Ep #86: Why kids act up
Wednesday Jun 03, 2020
Wednesday Jun 03, 2020
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Do you know why your kid acts up? Understanding why they do allows you to intervene and address behaviors beforehand.
When our kids act up, we become so focused on the behavior and outcome that we often forget that something happened before the behavior to cause it.
Are they tired? Are they worried? Are they hungry? Was someone being mean?
Being able to focus on things that happen beforehand and addressing them is incredibly powerful. It sends a message to our child that we care about figuring out what is happening in their life and not just about punishing them.
The way to figure out what happened that contributes to a behavior is by using the ABC’s of Behavior.
The A stands for antecedent. This is what happened beforehand that contributed to the behavior. There can be multiple antecedents that contribute to specific behavior.
The B stands for behavior. This is the behavior your child is doing. This behavior can be good or bad.
The C stands for consequence. The consequence is what happens after the behavior.
Sometimes the antecedent may be clear, like when their sibling takes their toys. In other situations, it may not be so obvious. An antecedent can happen hours or even days beforehand. There can also be multiple antecedents that contribute to a behavior.
The more you can focus on addressing antecedents, the more behavior will decrease. For example, if you know that your child refuses to do their homework when they are hungry, you can easily prevent the issue by making sure they have a snack before beginning.
Using the ABC’s of Behavior will make your life easier. In general, it takes less work to address behaviors in the antecedent stage than in the consequence stage.
Join the Smarter Parenting Club where we can help you figure out antecedents and how you can address and prevent them.