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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #137: Focusing on what kids do right](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-137-focusing-on-what-kids-do-right_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday May 26, 2021
Ep #137: Focusing on what kids do right
Wednesday May 26, 2021
Wednesday May 26, 2021
We’ve heard so many parents say, “My child doesn’t do anything right.” Even the “worst” kids do things right. In fact, they may be doing a lot right. If we‘re focusing on the “bad,” that will be all we see, and we will miss what they do well.
The skill of Effective Praise helps parents acknowledge what kids are doing well, even if it’s small. When we focus on the positive, we will see things change as our kids will respond to the praise and acknowledgment of what they’re doing right.
Using Effective Praise is different than just offering general praise. General praise is sayings like, “Good job,” “Way to go,” “I’m proud of you.” While all of these sounds great, they won’t change your child’s behavior because they don’t tell a child anything.
On the other hand, Effective Praise helps a child understand what they are doing well and why they should continue it. Effective Praise is specific and tailored to your child and what they are doing.
Effective Praise sounds like, “Good job putting away your shoes. When you put away your shoes, you will know where they are, and you don’t have to spend time looking for them when you want to play with your friends.”
The hardest time to praise our children is when they are misbehaving, as it can be easy to think they don’t deserve praise. That is when you need to praise them! Remember, a child acts out because they are dealing with large emotions that they don’t know how to express. When you praise positive behaviors during a tantrum, it shows them they have options other than misbehaving and that even though they are acting out, you still love them and want to help them.
You can find the skill of Effective Praise on the Smarter Parenting website.
![Ep #136: Using behavior skills with ADHD and ODD](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-136-using-behavior-skills-adhd-and-odd_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday May 19, 2021
Ep #136: Using behavior skills with ADHD and ODD
Wednesday May 19, 2021
Wednesday May 19, 2021
Many children with ADHD also have Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Understanding the difference between these two diagnoses will help parents better understand how to help their child.
Whether your child has ADHD, ODD, or both, the skills we teach on Smarter Parenting will work to help improve your child’s behavior. How you implement the skills will change depending on your child’s diagnosis because your child will need different things depending on their diagnosis.
Do you wonder if your child has ODD? All children can have moments of difficulty when they are angry or argue. Children with ODD show persistent anger, moodiness, arguing, defiance, or vindictiveness towards you or other authority figures. Their behavior goes beyond normal child’s behavior.
Children with ODD tend to angry, irritable, argumentative, or defiant and deliberately annoy, upset, or blame others for their mistakes. Children with ODD tend not to take responsibility for their actions, making them less likely to respond to consequences as they don’t believe they did anything wrong.
Instead, they respond well to Effective Praise as it reinforces their self-motivation and self-rational.
Children with ADHD do respond well to Effective Negative Consequences as children then tend to act without thinking.
We love the skills of the Teaching-Family Model because no matter what diagnosis your child has, they can help.
We know that implementing the skills when your child has a diagnosis can be challenging. If you need help, we offer individual coaching tailored to your child and your specific situation.
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We can’t wait to help you!
![Ep #135: Recognizing our parenting weaknesses](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-135-recognizing-our-parenting-weaknesses_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday May 12, 2021
Ep #135: Recognizing our parenting weaknesses
Wednesday May 12, 2021
Wednesday May 12, 2021
Recognizing our parenting weaknesses can be challenging. It is never easy to admit that how we are parenting may not be working.
All parents struggle at times when it comes to parenting. We all come with our own baggage when it comes to parenting.
Struggling as a parent does not make you a failure. If you are struggling, it just means that something needs to change. Lasting change requires work and often doesn’t happen overnight.
This can be especially true when trying to implement a new behavior skill with our children. We may not see a behavior skill working right away and assume that the skills don’t work. They work!
Because each child and each family is different, it may take longer for it to click with a child or for a family to develop the consistency they need to create change.
Parents that stick with learning new behavior skills will eventually see incredible, long-lasting outcomes. Parents who are diligent in using the skills of the Teaching-Family Model report increased family harmony, stronger relationships, improved communications, increased confidence, and a belief that they have prepared their child to be a good human being that contributes to society.
If you are struggling with your parenting, let us help. We want your family to thrive. With Parenting Coaching, we can help you come up with a tailored plan that will work for your family.
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![Ep #134: Preventing parenting burnout](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-134-preventing-parenting-burnout-and-exhaustion_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday May 05, 2021
Ep #134: Preventing parenting burnout
Wednesday May 05, 2021
Wednesday May 05, 2021
Are you feeling burnt-out as a parent? Is that burnout affecting your relationship with your family?
Parental burnout is more common today than previously due to many factors that previous generations didn't have to deal with.
Parenting has changed and raising kids isn't always easy. All parents struggle at some point with feeling overwhelmed, dealing with communication or behavior struggles.
When we feel burnt-out as a parent, it can cause us to become emotionally distant from our family. It can lead us to not finding happiness in being a parent. It can lead to us feeling isolated and alone. It can make us feel unsupported.
It's important when we are struggling as a parent to be able to reach out and connect with someone else. To build a community that supports and lifts us when we are feeling overwhelmed. This community could include your partner, family members, friends, or neighbors.
If you are one of those parents who feel that you are doing it all and that you're getting no support from your kids, we recommend implementing Preventive Teaching.
Preventive Teaching helps parents set expectations of what they expect, shows kids how to do it, and lays out the rewards and consequences if they do or don't do the behavior.
Children need expectations. They thrive when they know what is expected of them as they learn how to navigate the world around them. Without teaching them what to do, it's hard to expect them to know what you want them to do.
Having expectations and then following through with rewards and consequences will strengthen your relationship with your child. When a child acts out, often it is because they are seeking an emotional connection. It's their way of asking, "Are you there? Do you love me? Are you still going to love me when I mess up?"
Parenting is a hard job. We at SmarterParenting.com are here to support you. We want you to feel empowered and confident in your parenting abilities. You can do it. You are not alone!