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Ep #154: Keeping kids safe online

Ep #154: Keeping kids safe online

September 22, 2021

Kids are growing up with access to online, and parents must help them navigate that safely. 

A one-size-fits-all approach to internet safety and usage isn't realistic. Your child's age and needs should determine screen time and internet usage and recommend using the same rules to both your child's online and virtual environment. 

Parents should be monitoring what their child is doing online.  You should be familiar with what apps, games, and websites they are visiting and what they are teaching. There are a lot of apps and articles that can give parents an idea of what their child is doing online. One we recommend is Common Sense Media.  Parents can find additional app recommendations in the show notes at

As they grow, how they interact with apps and online may change. It's essential to have continued conversations about what is appropriate and inappropriate. Effective Communication allows both parents and children to have meaningful, healthy, and productive discussions regarding time limits, usage, and how they spend their time online, creating healthy digital literacy. 

As technology becomes more ingrained in our lives, the recommendation for a child's use of technology has changed and will continue to change. What type of media your child is accessing is more important than how long they are accessing it. For example, it's better for a child to play an interactive learning game for three hours than playing a non-learning game for an hour.

While thinking about everything you need to teach your child about online safety may feel overwhelming, remember you don't need to teach everything all at once. It would be best if you were having ongoing conversations that you adjust and revisit as needed. You can do this! 

For more information about online safety, don't forget to check out this episode's notes on

Ep #153: Tips for creating routines that work

Ep #153: Tips for creating routines that work

September 15, 2021

This episode is one you don't want to miss!

With kids returning to school, we could all use a little help in establishing, or reestablishing, routines that work for our family.

In today's podcast, Parenting Coach, Kimber Petersen shares practical tips families can use to reduce stress and frustration regarding back-to-school routines, including opening up the lines of communication better and teaching them responsibility through family meetings.

Kids thrive on routines. They feel safe when they know what they should do—having patterns that work builds trust and strengthens relationships.

When establishing routines, it's vital to look at both the needs of the family and what is realistic. The worst thing you can do is to develop practices that create more issues and problems. 

Establishing routines should be a collaboration between you and your child. When children have a say in routines, they are more likely to follow expectations. Having them create routines is a great way to help them learn critical thinking skills and responsibility.

Regularly evaluate routines to determine if they are working. Don't be afraid to make adjustments if practices aren't working. 


Ep #152: How to get your child to accept no

Ep #152: How to get your child to accept no

September 8, 2021

As parents we tell our children "no" a lot. Those "no" answers are because we're tired, distracted, or have reached decision fatigue.

There are times when we need to say "no" to our child, but more frequently than not, there are times when we say no that we can say "yes."

Determining when we can say "yes" to our children's requests will help them gain confidence and strengthen your relationship.

When you're saying "no" to your child, ask yourself these questions about if you can say "yes."

Is it safe? Is it reasonable? Is it best for my child? 

If you can answer "yes," it's okay to change your mind and to change a "no" answer to a "yes" response.

There will be times when "no means no," and your child needs to accept that, but you also have to be able to enforce it. A child knows when a "no" answer doesn't mean "no."

Using the skill of Preventive Teaching helps you prepare your child for getting and accepting a "no" answer.  

You can learn more about the skill of Preventive Teaching at

Announcement: Warm welcome to our newest Parenting Coach Kimber Petersen

Announcement: Warm welcome to our newest Parenting Coach Kimber Petersen

September 7, 2021

We are excited to introduce our newest Parenting Coach, Kimber Petersen! 

Kimber comes with a wealth of knowledge in dealing with difficult and challenging behavior using the Teaching-Family Model.

You will be hearing more from Kimber in future podcast episodes and she is available for coaching.


Ep #151: Feeling judged as a parent

Ep #151: Feeling judged as a parent

September 1, 2021

Are you feeling judged as a parent? In fact, many parents feel judgment when it comes to how they are parenting.

Join Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen as they talk about why parents are feeling judged and what they can do about it.

We are all going to receive judgment about our parenting. Someone is going to think we are doing too much or not enough. The goal is to be able to receive that judgment and determine if it applies to you.

As the parent, you know your child and what they need best. What has worked for another child or another family may not work with yours. That is okay. That's how it should be. The most effective parenting happens when parents can adapt to the individualized needs of their children.

Often when we receive criticism or suggestions on parenting, it can be challenging to hear and causes us to get defensive or dismiss the advice.

The skill of Observe and Describe helps us stay grounded. Instead of getting all frustrated or upset, we can recognize how we are feeling, which allows our brain time to process what was said and how it made us feel.

We love how Observe and Describe can help us work through the internal dialogue that we may be having about situations. For example, if you've ever taken a young child to the store late at night, you know that people are often formulating judgments in their mind. With Observe and Describe you can remind yourself, "I know this person is looking at me and making a judgment about me bring my child to the store, and this makes me feel anxious. They don't know that I spilled the formula container, and there is no longer formula for their nighttime feeding. Keeping my child feed is more important to me than feeling anxious about what someone thinks."

The great thing about Observe and Describe is that it is a skill that can be done anywhere and doesn't need any special tools. 

Parents, you're doing a good job! Hang in there. You've got this!

On our website, you will find additional information and suggestions for using Observe and Describe

Ep #150:Dealing with parenting differences and finding common ground

Ep #150:Dealing with parenting differences and finding common ground

August 25, 2021

We are excited to welcome our newest Parenting Coach, Kimber Petersen! Kimber brings a substantial wealth of knowledge and experience about what parents need to handle challenging behavior and improve their relationship.

We are excited for you to join us!

One of the questions we get asked frequently is how to deal with parenting differences, especially if co-parenting is involved? No two parents see eye to eye on everything. But parents can find common ground when dealing with their children as we want what is best for our child.

When parents find common ground, focus shifts from "I'm right, you're wrong" to "What is best for our child?". This shift is powerful as it allows parents to move past emotion and focus on their child's needs.

A lot of differences in parenting can be addressed by using the skill of Effective Communication. The skill of Effective Communication accomplishes two things. First, it puts both parents on the same page, which is essential because sometimes, what we say is not what we mean, leading to confusion and frustration. Effective Communication removes those barriers and helps everyone feel appreciated and valued. Second, we are no longer swayed by emotion because we are more interested in understanding the person than being proven right.

When someone feels valued and understood, they are more likely to work together and compromise. 

Effective Communication is a skill that can improve all relationships. We challenge you to learn this skill and begin using it on everybody you meet.

We know parenting differences are complex, but they don't have to be unsurmountable. We can help! Sing up for coaching and let Kimber and Siope provide tailored solutions for your unique situations.

Ep #149: Seeing weaknesses as strengths

Ep #149: Seeing weaknesses as strengths

August 18, 2021

We all have weaknesses. Often though, those weaknesses can be strengths if we change how we look at them. 

For example, the strength of a child that argues is that they feel confident in expressing their feelings and they know what they want. 

The strength of a child who walks away during conflict is that they know their limits and don’t want to increase friction or say something they would later regret. 

The strength of an indecisive child is that instead of rushing into decisions that could harm themselves or others, they take the time to look at all possible options logically.

When we can change our viewpoint and shift our perspective regarding what our child is doing, it will pay huge dividends.

One way that parents can shift their focus on see weaknesses as strengths is to use the skill of Effective Praise. Effective Praise lets a child know that you see the good they are doing and not just the bad, which gives your child confidence that you can help them.

If you want your child to change, praise them. Children respond to Effective Praise. You can find the skill of Effective Praise on the Smarter Parenting website.

Ep #148: Time management strategies using the SODAS Method

Ep #148: Time management strategies using the SODAS Method

August 11, 2021

Children with ADHD need help learning how to manage their time as many struggle with Executive Dysfunction.  Executive Dysfunction means that they have difficulty planning, focusing, paying attention, remembering instructions, and performing goal-oriented tasks.

With the right tools and strategies, children with ADHD can thrive when completing tasks and managing their time.

When helping your child with time management, it’s essential to evaluate their strengths and weaknesses. For example. If your child has trouble concentrating when it comes to doing homework due to being easily distracted, remove potential distractions by creating an environment that helps them focus. If your child has difficulty remembering tasks, a system of smaller instructions with built-in rewards for completion will help your child be more successful. 

Many kids with ADHD have found using the SODAS Method and timeboxing to be incredibly beneficial.

The SODAS Method helps children understand the pros and cons of a course of action and allows them to make decisions that are not emotionally driven. 

Timeboxing allows a child to focus on a task for a certain amount of time, rather than until the task is completed.  Using this method gives children a sense of control over their time as well as helping them with future thinking and goal completion. 

You can learn more about the SODAS Method at 

Ep #147: When parents disagree on parenting

Ep #147: When parents disagree on parenting

August 4, 2021

When it comes to parenting, no two parents will do it the same, often leading to conflict as you try to prove to the other parent that "you are right."

Each parent brings a different history to their parenting and thus a different response. You may think that your partner is too soft or demanding regarding consequences or rewards, and they may feel the same. 

Just because you were raised one way doesn't make it the best way to raise your child. When parents can approach parenting differences with an attitude of "What is best for my child?" vs. "I'm right, you're wrong," they can come up with solutions that are in the best interest of their child. That solution may be different for each child as each child is different.

When you focus on your child's needs and strengths, it will be easier for you to find common ground as both of you want what is best for your child.

The skill of Decision Making (SODAS Method) guides parents on how to find the best solution by showing the positives and negatives for actions.

You can find the skill of Decision Making (SODAS Method) on the Smarter Parenting website.

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Ep #146: Moving beyond the ADHD label

Ep #146: Moving beyond the ADHD label

July 28, 2021

Your child is not their diagnosis. 

A diagnosis is a framework for how your child's brain works. A diagnosis does not usually tell you how to address the symptoms your child may be experiencing. No two children with the same diagnosis will manifest symptoms the same. Some children with ADHD will struggle with impulsivity, where other children may not.

By focusing on the behavior rather than the diagnosis is crucial in addressing the problem areas.

One of the skills we love to teach parents to use is Decision Making or the SODAS Method. Often when presented with a problem, we may think we have limited options. This belief is often especially true when we receive a diagnosis for our child and feel that that diagnosis is defining our child. 

Using the SODAS Method, we can look at specific problems and develop solutions tailored to our children that will best address their needs.

For many parents having their child no longer defined by labels empowers the child to grow and develop.

You can find Decision Making on the Smarter Parenting website. 

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