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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #76: Giving Effective Praise](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/giving-effective-praise_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 25, 2020
Ep #76: Giving Effective Praise
Wednesday Mar 25, 2020
Wednesday Mar 25, 2020
Giving Effective Praise is one of the best things parents can do to improve behavior.
What is Effective Praise? Effective Praise is specific (not general) praise that allows a child to know exactly what they did well and a reason why they should continue that specific behavior.
An example of Effective Praise would be, “I am so proud of you for putting away your backpack. When you put away your backpack, I don’t have to interrupt your playtime to have you put it away.”
General praise, on the other hand, doesn’t help a child understand what they did well and why they should continue doing it. General praise sounds like “Good job.” “I’m proud of you!” “You did awesome.”
It can be challenging to switch from general praise to Effective Praise, but doing so will pay big dividends.
When you use Effective Praise, you are building self-esteem in kids as it gives them the confidence to continue to grow and learn. Effective Praise can be used for any positive behavior. Effective Praise can be especially helpful during a tantrum as it allows parents to focus on the positive and deescalate the situation.
Giving Effective Praise takes work to become natural. When it does, you will find yourself creating a stronger bond with your children.
Visit SmarterParenting.com for the Effective Praise lesson video: https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/effective-praise/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #75: Dealing with angry outbursts using Correcting Behaviors](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/dealing-with-angry-outburtst-correcting-behaviors_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 18, 2020
Ep #75: Dealing with angry outbursts using Correcting Behaviors
Wednesday Mar 18, 2020
Wednesday Mar 18, 2020
Dealing with angry outbursts or tantrums can be frustrating and exhausting.
The skill of Correcting Behaviors helps parents respond to negative behavior in a way that keeps the problem from escalating.
Correcting Behaviors gives parents the steps they need to help their child understand what is happening and gives them a way to channel their anger or frustration.
Children have outbursts or tantrums because they are feeling large emotions and don’t know how to process them. Common emotions that lead to outbursts include being frustrated, worried, scared, tired, hungry, or overwhelmed.
An angry outburst or a tantrum is your child’s way of letting you know they need help to deal with their emotions. Instead of making the problem worse, using Correcting Behaviors gives a child an off-ramp for their behaviors and emotions.
The steps of Correcting Behavior are:
Get your child's attention
Express empathy
Describe the negative behavior
Deliver a consequence for that behavior
Describe what you want instead
Give a meaningful reason why they should do the new behavior
Role-play the new behavior until the child is comfortable
In this episode we walk through how to teach these steps to families. When making behavior changes most parents think that they’ll find the most success by focusing on changing their child. In reality, the greatest change happens when the parent first makes changes. By changing one part of the system (how a parent responds) the entire system changes.
Learning behavior skills isn’t a quick fix, but it is a lasting fix.
To learn the skill of Correcting Behaviors, visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/correcting-behaviors/
For full transcript and show notes visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #74: Getting the right diagnosis](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/image-logo/4701387/ADHD-logo_300x300.png)
Wednesday Mar 11, 2020
Ep #74: Getting the right diagnosis
Wednesday Mar 11, 2020
Wednesday Mar 11, 2020
In episode 74, ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini talks with Dr. Gray and Dr. Crohan about the importance of getting the right diagnosis and how behavior skills can help kids with ADHD.
![Ep #73: Preventing temper tantrums using behavior skills](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/preventing-temper-tantrums-using-behavior-skills_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 04, 2020
Ep #73: Preventing temper tantrums using behavior skills
Wednesday Mar 04, 2020
Wednesday Mar 04, 2020
Preventing temper tantrums is a question that ADHD Smarter Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini is asked frequently during coaching sessions.
While there are many behavior skills on Smarter Parenting that can address tantrum behavior, the best way to deal with temper tantrums is to prevent them from happening using the behavior skill of Preventive Teaching.
The behavior skill of Preventive Teaching helps a child understand what they need to do in a specific situation. Knowing what to do beforehand allows a child to make corrections and deal with emotions and frustrations before they get out of control. Preventive Teaching gives your child confidence that they can handle any situation.
When teaching the skill of Preventive Teaching, you need to focus on what you want their child to do and not what you don’t want their child to do. Focusing on what we want a child to do, helps our child rewire their brain, and adopt the new positive behavior. Talking about a new behavior isn’t enough. The real change comes when we Role-play or practice. We recommend that parents practice the new behavior as many times as needed until both you and the child are confident in your ability to do it.
Using Preventive Teaching to stop tantrums before they start isn’t a quick fix. It’s a lasting fix that will take time and effort to implement but will pay huge dividends. Preventing temper tantrums will change the dynamic of your family and improve your relationship.
If you are looking for specific help for tantrums, sign up for a free mini-coaching session. During the session, our ADHD Parenting coach Siope Kinikini will be able to dive deeper into the situation and will give you tailored information that will help your family find success. https://www.smarterparenting.com/coaching/
To learn the behavior skills on Smarter Parenting visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/lesson/
For show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/