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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #94: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 2](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-94-improving-communication-and-increasing-communication-part-2_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 29, 2020
Ep #94: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 2
Wednesday Jul 29, 2020
Wednesday Jul 29, 2020
How do you communicate with a child who doesn’t want to talk? In today’s podcast, ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini answers what parents can do when experiencing tension in communication.
When our children are having difficulty communicating, it’s our job to help them learn how to do it. Often that requires us to reframe our thoughts on what is happening. It can be easy to take their lack of communication as a personal slight, do not. Instead, see it as an opportunity for growth and understanding.
Children can be resistant to communication because they don’t know how or don’t feel comfortable giving their opinions because they’re afraid of how someone will respond.
Creating a space when they can communicate will be difficult for many parents as they will want to feel that space with their thoughts instead of allowing their children to express themselves. But the best thing you can do is to create this space as it will allow your child to open up and truly express themselves. This podcast will show you the steps you need to take to make this happen as it won't always be easy or natural.
Your child can learn to communicate and do it well.
For full show notes and transcript, visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
Sign up for the Smarter Parenting Club https://club.smarterparenting.com/
![Ep #93: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 1](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-93-improving-communication-and-increasing-comprehension-part-1_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 22, 2020
Ep #93: Improving communication and increasing comprehension: Part 1
Wednesday Jul 22, 2020
Wednesday Jul 22, 2020
Most of us communicate to be heard, not necessarily to be understood.
Think about that for a second. Think about how much time and frustration we could reduce if we changed HOW we communicated. We would no longer spend as much time arguing or fighting, and we would see our relationships improve and our kids--and others--would like being around us.
What parent wouldn’t want that?
It’s not easy to change how we communicate. The behavior skill of Effective Communication gives parents the steps they need to communicate in a way that allows for comprehension.
This is so so important. When someone feels genuinely listened to and heard, they are more likely to open up about issues, come to you for advice, and seek solutions.
Comprehension doesn’t mean that your child will always agree with what is being said, but they will understand why something is in place.
When everybody feels heard and understood, incredible things happen.
Learn the skill: https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/effective-communication/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
Sign up for the Smarter Parenting Club and let Siope Kinikini help you improve your communication. https://www.smarterparenting.com/coaching/
![Ep #92: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 2](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/creating-change-increasing-confidence-part-2_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 15, 2020
Ep #92: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 2
Wednesday Jul 15, 2020
Wednesday Jul 15, 2020
In this episode, we continue our discussion on how Role-playing creates change and increases confidence in children and adults. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, we recommend you go back to episode 91.
https://adhd.smarterparenting.com/e/ep-91-creating-change-while-increasing-confidence-part-1/
All of us have biases based on our life experiences. These biases can make it hard for us to see another person’s viewpoint, which can hinder communication. One of the benefits of Role-playing is that it allows us to feel empathy for another person which helps us break down our biases. By understanding where someone is coming from, we can focus on building better relationships as we can improve and positively address things. This is especially important for helping your child with ADHD as they tend to see the world differently, and understanding how they see it goes a long way to understanding and finding solutions.
These biases also come into play in how we process the good or bad that someone is experiencing. When good things happen, we believe that it’s because of something we’ve done, and when bad things happen, it’s due to external forces.
Using Role-playing to increase empathy and understanding will have a ripple effect on your family and your relationships. If you are unsure how to use Role-playing, we hope you will join the Smarter Parenting Club where Siope Kinikini will be able to walk you through Role-playing and what you need to do to help your family find success. https://club.smarterparenting.com/
For show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #91: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 1](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-91-creating-change-and-increasing-confidence-part-1_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 08, 2020
Ep #91: Creating change and increasing confidence: Part 1
Wednesday Jul 08, 2020
Wednesday Jul 08, 2020
Let Siope Kinikini help you find solutions and create success. Join the Smarter Parenting Club!
https://club.smarterparenting.com/
Have you ever expected your kid to behave a certain way and then got frustrated when they didn’t?
We have.
Just because you know what to do at a restaurant or greet someone, doesn’t mean that they do. Kids act up because they don’t know how to act. If you want them to behave a certain way, they need to be shown how, and they need to practice.
It’s why Role-playing is so helpful for children. Role-playing allows them to know what is expected and helps them practice until they feel comfortable doing it. Feeling prepared will increase their confidence and reduce feelings of anxiety or frustration.
We can teach behavior skills on Smarter Parenting, but without Role-playing, they won’t be successful.
In part one of our podcast on Role-playing, Parenting Coaching Siope Kinkini helps parents understand three benefits children will gain when using role-playing.
The first benefit is that they will gain an understanding of social situations and how to respond. They will know the difference in interacting with friends versus interacting with a teacher.
Second, they will learn what vocabulary to use in different situations. The words we use will be different when talking to our friends’ verses when we speak to a teacher or a boss.
Lastly, it will teach them empathy and understanding. When a child can see things from the other person’s point of view, they are more likely to create solutions that benefit both sides.
Role-playing is so powerful. We can’t wait for your family to use it and harness its power.
In the Smarter Parenting Club we walk you through making Role-plays successful. https://club.smarterparenting.com/
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #90: Dealing with frustrating situations: Part 2](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-90-dealing-with-frusttrating-situations-part-2_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jul 01, 2020
Ep #90: Dealing with frustrating situations: Part 2
Wednesday Jul 01, 2020
Wednesday Jul 01, 2020
Join the Smarter Parenting Club and let us help you better respond to frustrating situations.
When parents are dealing with frustrating situations, their ability to make decisions is reduced. In today’s podcast, ADHD Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini shares with parents how to use Observe and Describe to minimize decision fatigue.
We all have the same amount of energy to spend on making decisions. As the day goes own, we have less energy to spend on decisions, creating decision fatigue. This decision fatigue is especially true for a child with ADHD, as the choices they make throughout the day require more energy.
How can Observe and Describe help? Observe and Describe takes that decision-making equation out of a situation. Knowing that you will be using Observe and Describe is one less decision you need to make, which allows you to spend the energy where it’s needed.
Observe and Describe is excellent for allowing parents to take a step back and focus on what is happening while giving them a moment to make the best decision about the situation instead of just reacting.
For complete show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/observe-and-describe/
If you need help with implementing Observe and Describe, join the Smarter Parenting Club.