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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #129: Why you're seeing increased negative behaviors](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-129-why-youre-seeing-increased-negative-behaviors_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 31, 2021
Ep #129: Why you're seeing increased negative behaviors
Wednesday Mar 31, 2021
Wednesday Mar 31, 2021
If you've seen an increase in negative behaviors since the beginning of the pandemic, you are not alone.
The uncertainty and change in routine have been difficult for many families, especially for children, as they don't know how to deal with all the changes happening around them appropriately.
Kids thrive on routines as those routines allow them to feel safe and in control while understanding the world around them. When patterns are altered and keep are continually adjusted, they often don't know how to process them.
Children act up because they're feeling overwhelmed, worried, scared, sad, frustrated, stressed, etc. Understanding why they may act up allows parents to address better the root cause of what is causing their problematic behavior.
If you understand that they're acting up because they're feeling overwhelmed, you can create daily opportunities for them to meditate or take a break. If online school is causing them frustration or stress, you can implement procedures to reduce those feelings. If they're sad because they're not seeing friends or missing out on things they love, you could create online or different opportunities for them.
The skill of Following Instructions helps a child to feel in control because they understand what is expected of them. Following Instructions is can be used with children of all ages--including teenagers.
Following Instructions is one of the first behavior skills we recommend parents teach because it provides such a framework for all the other behavior skills.
Following Instructions provides the following benefits for children.
It allows children to know precisely what they are supposed to do, which reduces stress and frustration.
It meets your child at their level by enabling parents to break down complex instructions into small steps.
It gives your child confidence that they can accomplish tasks.
It allows you to focus on the good things your child is doing, ie completing a job, which shifts negative behavior sooner.
You can find the behavior skill of Following Instructions at Smarterparenting.com
![Ep #128: Neurodiversity and helping kids who learn differently](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-128-neurodiversity-helping-kids-who-learn-differently_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 24, 2021
Ep #128: Neurodiversity and helping kids who learn differently
Wednesday Mar 24, 2021
Wednesday Mar 24, 2021
Neurodiversity believes that children with ADHD, Autism, or other neurological diagnoses don't have a learning disability. Instead, they learn differently. Processing information differently does not make them stupid or "bad." Understanding that they learn differently allows parents to empower their children.
By reframing your child's diagnosis, we can frame their challenges as differences rather than deficits.
It is especially true when it comes to challenging behaviors. If you have had a hard time improving their behavior, it's not because they're inherently bad, but rather how you're communicating with your child isn't how they learn. The great news is that you can help them move beyond their negative behaviors to more positive behaviors using the Teaching-Family Model.
The Teaching-Family Model is influential in changing behavior because it incorporates different learning styles, setting a child up for success. It doesn't matter if your child has ADHD or not; all can find success when you use the Teaching-Family Model skills.
When parents continually teach and reinforce the skills taught on SmarterParenting.com, they help their children create new pathways in their brains. These new pathways will allow your child to perform the task independently and generalize what they have learned to other situations.
Creating new pathways doesn't happen overnight and will require a lot of teaching on your part, but the outcomes will save you stress, time, and frustration for both you and your child in the future.
On SmarterParenting.com, you will find the short video skills lessons that will set your child up for success. These video lessons are entirely free.
![Ep #127: When you love your child but don't always like your child](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-127-when-you-love-your-child-but-you-dont-always-like-them_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 17, 2021
Ep #127: When you love your child but don't always like your child
Wednesday Mar 17, 2021
Wednesday Mar 17, 2021
It’s normal to love our children and want to do anything for them, but not always like them because their behavior makes life difficult.
When your child’s behavior drives you nuts, you may wonder what you can do or what you need to focus on to help your child change their behavior.
One of the reasons children act out at home is that they feel safe, and part of feeling safe is testing boundaries to figure out the world around them, which is a good thing.
When we give into a child’s demand, it signals to them that this is something they can come to expect, so being consistent is so important.
When parents are constantly changing the game plan, it’s confusing for children and can cause them to act up. The more consistent you are, the safer your children will feel, reducing the need for them to act up.
One reason kids may do well at school, but then not so well at home, is because most classrooms operate with consistent schedules and expectations.
As a parent, you can create the same structure that works for your family at home. Part of creating that structure is making sure you understand your limits and taking breaks as needed.
If you are frustrated or overwhelmed, you aren’t able to help your child and often make the situation worse.
We can provide individualized help in setting up a structure that works for your family by joining the Smarter Parenting club.
![Ep #126: Why kids see time differently](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-126-why-kids-see-time-differently_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 10, 2021
Ep #126: Why kids see time differently
Wednesday Mar 10, 2021
Wednesday Mar 10, 2021
How kids see time is very different than how you see time. Understanding this will be so helpful when you are dealing with giving instructions.
Children see time as happening slowly, while adults see time as happening quickly. This is due to children getting more visual stimuli versus the stimulus that adults are receiving. When you get more visual stimuli, time appears to pass more slowly.
Your child is absorbing so much information every moment of the day, which is why your child moves "slowly" when getting ready, doing their chores, or doing their homework.
This concept is especially true when you say something to your child like, "We need to leave in 15 minutes," or "You have 5 minutes to complete this chore." Those measurements of time will mean something completely different to your child than it will to you. Because of this, your child doesn't understand why they are in trouble, or you're getting frustrated when the time is up because, in their mind, they still have time.
When interacting with your child, remember there will be a disconnect between how you see time and how your child sees time. Using the ABC's of Behavior, you can help give your child's perception of time a structure that allows you both to get on the same page, reducing frustration.
![Ep #125: The skills are solutions](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-125-skills-are-solutions_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Mar 03, 2021
Ep #125: The skills are solutions
Wednesday Mar 03, 2021
Wednesday Mar 03, 2021
Are you looking for solutions to parenting challenges?
The behavior skills of the Teaching-Family Model taught in this podcast are the solutions to your parenting needs!
Need help with tantrums? You can use the skill of Correcting Behaviors or Preventive Teaching.
Need help creating a better connection with your child? You can use Effective Communication or Effective Praise.
Need help reducing a problem behavior? You can use Effective Negative Consequences or Effective Positive Rewards.
The wonderful thing about the Teaching-Family Model is that there are multiple skills parents can use to fix problems depending on what needs their child has and what outcomes the parents are looking for.
The ability to use multiple skills allows a parent to customize how they respond, leading to increased success.
The Teaching-Family Model's goal is to create confident parents by giving them all the tools you need to deal with any situation.
For over 50 years, hundreds of families worldwide have turned to the Teaching-Family Model's evidence-based skills. Parents continue to use the skills because they work!
Learn more about the Teaching-Family Model