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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #133: Parenting wisdom from The Karate Kid](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-133-putting-in-the-work-and-becoming-a-parenting-master_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 28, 2021
Ep #133: Parenting wisdom from The Karate Kid
Wednesday Apr 28, 2021
Wednesday Apr 28, 2021
You can become a parenting master who knows how to help your child best. It just takes a little practice.
We hear from parents constantly that Role-playing, aka the practicing, is the hardest part of learning a new skill.
The practicing is where the magic happens. Practicing allows your child to create muscle memory and be confident in what they need to do. Practicing is where you will see how well your child understands what is taught.
When we are little, it's common for us to practice new things. We practice them in school. We practice them at home. As we grow, though, we practice less, which can make Role-playing a new skill awkward or uncomfortable.
Practicing doesn't have to be scary. Practicing should be fun!
There are many ways to practice something new, including using games or activities. We encourage parents to be creative when practicing with their children. Some methods will work better depending on your child.
We've turned picking up clothes into a game. We've used reverse Role-plays where we've become the kid, and the kid has become the adult. We've used props and puppets. We've also done Role-plays where we didn't use anything special.
As you practice with your child, your child will become comfortable practicing and will be more inclined to practice new things in the future.
We know you want your child to be successful. Adapting a practice to your child's needs is what parenting masters do, as it focuses on helping your child find success.
You can learn more about practicing at https://www.smarterparenting.com/skills/role-playing/
![Ep #132: Helping a child calm down from a tantrum](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-132-helping-a-child-calm-down-from-a-tantrum_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 21, 2021
Ep #132: Helping a child calm down from a tantrum
Wednesday Apr 21, 2021
Wednesday Apr 21, 2021
Have you ever wondered how to help your child when they are out of control? Are you unsure of what to do when your child is tantruming or defiant, and nothing seems to be working?
On today's podcast, Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini is joined by Naomi Halterman, director of training at Utah Youth Village. In this episode, they discuss what parents can do to help their child when their child is feeling out of control by using the behavior skills of the Teaching-Family Model.
Dealing with a child who is throwing a tantrum is never easy as it requires a lot of patience to get them back into control. A child's tantrum can involve anger, crying, defiance, or even ignoring you and will look different in younger kids versus older kids.
When teaching to a child's tantrum, remember that your goal is to help them get to a state where they can do what is asked of them without resorting to tantrum behaviors. No matter what tantrum behavior they are experiencing, how you address it remains the same.
You address tantrum behaviors by giving them small instructions to calm down and continually give that instruction until they comply.
Giving the same instruction repeatedly without a child doing it is hard for many parents. Providing the same instruction repeatedly without getting angry or frustrated signals to your child that they have permission to calm down and that you aren't mad with them for feeling overwhelmed and out of control, which is very comforting to your child.
You're going to enjoy listening to Naomi and her experience with working with the Teaching-Family Model. We can't wait for you to take a listen.
To learn more about the behavior skills talked about in this episode, visit SmarterParenting.com.
![Ep #131: Creating a safe place for kids to talk about hard topics](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-131-creating-safe-place-for-kods-to-talk-about-difficult-topics_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 14, 2021
Ep #131: Creating a safe place for kids to talk about hard topics
Wednesday Apr 14, 2021
Wednesday Apr 14, 2021
Creating a safe space where our children can talk about anything takes work but is incredibly important in building and strengthening our relationships.
Our kids will have questions about complex topics, and if they don't feel they can come to us, they will seek out answers elsewhere and may get information that is incorrect or goes against our belief system.
Children ask difficult questions because they are trying to make sense of the world and their place in it. We want our kids to feel comfortable asking difficult questions and need to permit them to do so.
We understand that sometimes these complex topics are triggering and can cause parents to have an emotional response or to shut down. As parents, we want to create gates, not walls, when our children approach us. Gates allow us to guide and understand where walls teach our children that what they are curious about is a problem.
The skill of Effective Communication helps parents create those gates by helping both parties feel listened to and understood. Effective Communication works with children of all ages and can be used when discussing any topics. When parents use Effective Communication, they permit their children to talk about important things to them, which, in turn, fortifies their relationship.
You can find the skill of Effective Communication at SmarterParenting.com
![Ep #130: This is not what I signed up for | When ADHD symptoms aren't textbook](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-130-this-is-not-what-i-signed-up-for_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 07, 2021
Ep #130: This is not what I signed up for | When ADHD symptoms aren't textbook
Wednesday Apr 07, 2021
Wednesday Apr 07, 2021
When your child receives an ADHD diagnosis, you may think you understand what parenting them will look like. What happens when it doesn't? What do you do when your child doesn't have "typical" ADHD symptoms. How do you help them?
There is no such thing as a "typical" child--every child is unique and needs something different, often making parenting challenging as you try to figure out what they need.
While most people think of ADHD, they tend to associate hyperactivity as the primary behavior. ADHD behaviors involve more than just hyperactivity. A child with ADHD may be inattentive, have difficulty focusing, lack self-control, or have anger issues.
When parenting your child, whether or not they have ADHD isn't what you were expecting, the parenting skills we teach at SmarterParenting.com are your solutions.
Parenting skills allow you to address your child's behavior in positive ways that encourage growth and development instead of resorting to tactics that damage your child's relationship.
When you have proven parenting skills, you have the resources you need. Parenting skills help you separate your child from their negative behavior.
What do we mean by this? When a child is acting up, it can be easy to think, "They are terrible, They are mean, etc.," instead of understanding that they aren't the behavior. They aren't "bad"; they are just having difficulty processing what is happening. When we approach a situation with this mindset, we can use solutions that help our child do better in the future.
How does this work? Suppose your child is getting upset when talking to you. Instead of matching their voice tone, you can use Effective Communication to deescalate the situation as your helping your child see why they may be upset because they feel like they aren't being heard.
If your child with ADHD has problems focusing, you can use the skill of Decision Making to give them options of things they can do when they're starting to lose focus that will help them refocus, showing them they have multiple ways to react to situations.
We can't emphasize enough the confidence that parenting skills will give you. You will feel empowered and know that no matter what your ADHD child throws at you, you will be able to handle it. Parenting doesn't have to feel lonely and hard.
Learn the tools you need today to better address your child's ADHD diagnosis!