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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #142: Getting kids to listen without yelling](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-142-getting-kids-to-listen-without-yelling_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 30, 2021
Ep #142: Getting kids to listen without yelling
Wednesday Jun 30, 2021
Wednesday Jun 30, 2021
No parent likes giving the same instruction over and over again only to have it ignored. When parents reached this stage, they think their only course of action is to get their child's attention by yelling.
While yelling may get your child's attention, it can initiate their flight or fight response that will make it more difficult for them to do what you wanted of them in the first place.
There is a better way to engage with your child that creates connections. You develop better relationships with your child by investing in behavior skills and teaching your child your expectations.
The behavior skill Following Instructions teaches your child how to listen and do what you want them to do without either of you getting frustrated or angry, reducing stress and frustration.
Think of what your family life would look like if when you asked your child to do something, they did it without complaining? Wouldn't that change the whole dynamic of your family?
Teaching a new behavior skill requires work and time, but we promise that the long-term payoff will be incredible. It will change how your family interacts. You will find that your home is a calmer, happier, and more wonderful place.
![Ep #141: Behavior skills will give you confidence in your parenting](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-141-behavior-skills-give-your-confidence-in-your-parenting_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 23, 2021
Ep #141: Behavior skills will give you confidence in your parenting
Wednesday Jun 23, 2021
Wednesday Jun 23, 2021
Parenting stretches our abilities and, quite often, our confidence. It doesn't take too many tantrums for many parents to realize that they don't know how what to do. Then, just when you may think you finally have something figured out, another child with another personality comes along.
Parenting doesn't have to be such a struggle. Our goal at Smarter Parenting is to help parents feel confident in their ability to handle any parenting issue or challenge in a way that builds, not destroys, relationships.
The behavior skills we teach are a blueprint for better parenting. They show you what you can do to keep situations from escalating out of hand.
Every parent can use a little help as there is no such thing as a perfect parent. It's okay to admit that you need assistance, and recognizing that does not make you a bad parent.
The more parenting tool you have, the more confidence you will feel in your parenting! We can't wait to help you become an incredible parent.
Visit SmarterParenting.com for these amazing parenting skills.
![Ep #140: Connecting with your child instead of controlling them](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-140-connections-over-control_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 16, 2021
Ep #140: Connecting with your child instead of controlling them
Wednesday Jun 16, 2021
Wednesday Jun 16, 2021
When a child cannot control their own emotions, it can be easy for parents to step in and do it for them. While it may help our child in the short term, it isn't a long-term solution. When parents "control" their child, it can lead to resentment and an inability to function in the real world without parent intervention. Instead, parents need to show their kids what they need to do to control their emotions.
Parents help kids control their emotions by teaching them specific skills that help them address what they are dealing with without losing control. When children have these skills, they have options instead of acting out.
The behavior skills we teach on SmarterParenting.com will give your child confidence, increase their self-esteem, and make your life easier as you aren't constantly stepping in to "fix" everything.
As you give your child more tools, you strengthen connections with your child, and they will feel that you have their best interest in mind.
When children feel that you believe in them and trust them, they will often do what they can to build on that, which will have huge dividends as they grow and they know that you are a safe place for them.
To learn more about the skill discussed in this episode, visit SmarterParenting.com to begin learning the skills that will reshape the interactions you have with your child.
![Ep #139: Why parents shouldn't use corporal punishment when disciplining](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-139-parents-shouldnt-use-corporal-punishment_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 09, 2021
Ep #139: Why parents shouldn't use corporal punishment when disciplining
Wednesday Jun 09, 2021
Wednesday Jun 09, 2021
When it comes to discipline, parents shouldn’t use corporal punishment. Corporal punishment is any physical, mental, or emotional pain inflicted on our kids
While corporal punishment may be effective in the short term, it can have adverse long-term effects. For example, studies have shown that children who have received physical punishments are more likely to show aggressive behavior as they grow older.
When we react with anger when overwhelmed or frustrated, we teach our children that it is okay for them to act that way when they feel overwhelmed or frustrated.
Children need discipline, but the aim of discipline should be to teach our kids, not punish them. When we teach them how to behave, we can prevent future problems as we are showing them a better way of doing things. When we teach, we are investing in a better and stronger relationship with our children.
![Ep #138: Changing defiant behavior](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ep-138-changing-defiant-behavior_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Jun 02, 2021
Ep #138: Changing defiant behavior
Wednesday Jun 02, 2021
Wednesday Jun 02, 2021
Dealing with defiant behavior can be difficult for many parents. They may feel that their child will never make any improvement, and dealing with defiant behavior will be forever a part of their family dynamic.
We 100% know that behavior skills can improve defiant behavior. To improve a child's behavior, though, it requires a parent to make some changes too.
It can be easy to think that defiant behavior is all our child's fault without realizing that our behavior or reaction may make their behavior worse.
Are we too strict, and are they craving out some freedom? Are we too lenient and have learned that they can get whatever they want by acting out? Do we not listen and jump to conclusions when they are trying to explain something?
It's vital to evaluate what is happening in the home that may be contributing to your child's defiant behavior. You may think you're doing everything right, but your child may need something different than what you are doing.
Because every child is different and has different needs and it's essential to make sure we address their needs. If their needs aren't met, they will try to get those needs met through other means--often through defiant behavior or acting out.
When parents are willing to make changes to help their child, then your child is more likely to find success as you are adapting to what they need. We should be asking ourselves, "What does my child need from me to make the change permanent?" and then make the changes.
When parents make changes, it changes the dynamic of the whole entire family and will improve your child's behavior.
You can find a transcript and show notes for this episode on SmarterParenting.com