June 22, 2022
Do you ever feel like electronics are taking over your child's life? Do they have a problem getting off their phone, tablet, computer, game, or TV?
It can be tricky to help our children learn how to use electronics appropriately, as we must teach them how to use them in a beneficial and not harmful way for their growth.
In today's podcast, Parenting Coach Siope Kinikini discusses ways to set boundaries around electronics and their usage.
One of the things families can do is use the SODAS Method to determine how and when members should use electronic devices. When we make it a family decision, they don't feel like there is a double standard with one set of rules for grown-ups and another set for kids.
You can learn more about the SODAS Method by visiting the Smarter Parenting Website and watching the Decision Making Video.
June 15, 2022
Have you ever tried to get your child to clean their room, and they aren't interested, and that lack of interest causes tension, and you don't want all that tension?
Motiving your child can be incredibly frustrating.
The SODAS Method can make helping your child easier.
Everyone is either motivated by intrinsic or external factors. When we do something because we like doing that activity, that is called intrinsic motivation. External motivation is when we don't necessarily like doing the action but want what comes from it. For example, we may not enjoy studying for a test, but we like the grade we get when we do.
Understanding how and what motivates our children can make a world of difference--especially when it comes to having them do things they may not like or want to do.
It's why we love using the SODAS Method, as it helps us determine what the best way to motivate our children is. The SODAS Method can be tailored to specific situations and children as each child is different in what will encourage them. You may have a child who will do homework without external motivation because they like the process of learning. In contrast, you may have a child who needs external motivation because the learning process isn't enough.
You can find more about the SODAS Method on the Smarter Parenting website.
June 8, 2022
Bedtime can be a battlefield for most families but especially for families managing ADHD. But, why is it a fight? What needs to change? Do you as the parent have appropriate expectations? In this episode we break bedtime into three different phases, after listening consider what phase isn't going well in your home. You can focus on one area or you can dive into a bedtime makeover and tackle all three. Whatever you decide, one of your greatest tools is consistency so remain consistent and your bedtime will improve.
June 1, 2022
Join Siope in talking about the brain and how Role Playing makes a big difference when learning new things.
May 25, 2022
If you wake up on the morning of your dentist appointment with the motivation to make up for the last six months through one really great teeth brushing session it's unlikely you'll make a difference. Much of our health and well being is built up of small, daily choices that culminate into a meaningful impact. Our relationship with our children is no different, one enthusiastic lecture does not carry the weight of small daily interactions. This episode talks about how you, as a parent, can make a meaningful change in your world through small, but important, moments.
May 18, 2022
In this episode Siope breaks down Effective Communication and how you, as a parent, can apply Gottman's principle of Bids for Connection to your parent-child relationship.
May 11, 2022
Siope discusses the often connected relationship between ADHD and ODD, including the criteria for ODD and how to use Effective Praise to help with both problems.
It is always recommended to work with a mental health professional in your area as well if you need to help. Coaching is available to help support your efforts in the home and with your child.
Feel free to sign up for coaching on the Smarter Parenting website.
May 4, 2022
When you have a child with ADHD it can be so challenging to manage impulsive behaviors. In this episode we talk about how to use the skill Correcting Behaviors to help guide you through what to do when your child is struggling with a boundary you've set.
April 27, 2022
So many parents want to skip straight to "what do I do when my child acts out??". What you do BEFORE and AFTER the problem behavior really matters which is why we teach the skill Correcting Behaviors. While this is the content that most parents are wanting to jump straight into we want to remind you that this is only a small part of creating change. If you are struggling with a problem behavior it won't change from correction, the change is going to come from Effective Praise, Preventive Teaching, Effective Communication, and the many other skills that we teach. Correcting Behaviors is simply to maintain a boundary that has already been set, so its important but its not the most important part of the journey.
April 13, 2022
Learn how to customize chore charts to the needs of your child with some simple considerations. Siope shares insights into things parents can do to spruce up the effectiveness of a chore chart and emphasizes the need for parents to use the skill of Effective Communication in the process.
A chore chart can be a helpful way for children to do things they need to do without having parents constantly monitoring their children however, most parents believe just writing the tasks that need to be done is enough. Learn some additional ways to make a chore chart work for your child, their age, and their development.