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Drawing on years of experience working with families, Parenting Coaches Siope Kinikini and Kimber Petersen share how families can improve, heal, and find success using the proven methods of the Teaching-Family Model. Visit smarterparenting.com to learn more.
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![Ep #6: Your expectations for ADHD child](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ADHD-parenting-podcast-episode-6-ADHD-expectations-kids_300x300.jpg)
Wednesday Apr 24, 2019
Ep #6: Your expectations for ADHD child
Wednesday Apr 24, 2019
Wednesday Apr 24, 2019
I hear from parents how difficult parenting ADHD child is. They tell me that they want their child to be normal and successful. Instead, they feel judged, isolated, frustrated, overwhelmed, and often, like they’ve failed their child.
Parents, I can not say this loudly enough; you are not failing your child. Your stress, worry, and frustration is evidence that you are doing your best to help them.
Raising a child who has been diagnosed with ADHD requires a mind shift. If you have the same expectations for your ADHD as you do for your other child, you are setting yourself up for failure. It’s normal to want your ADHD child to act, think, and behave a certain way, but the truth is they won’t. That disconnect between how you want them to act and how they act is where that isolation, frustration, and exhaustion starts.
All parents have unrealistic expectations for their child. That is completely normal. As a parent, our expectations for ADHD child is that expect them to be “just like everybody else” that we aren’t able to meet them where they are.
What do we mean by that? It means that we need to take a step back and have realistic expectations based on their ability. Instead of wanting our child to sit still for 30 minutes and become frustrated when they don’t, we set an expectation that is achievable for our child. Which may only be 2, 3, or 10 minutes. When our child becomes restless after 2,3, or 10 minutes we don’t become all stressed and upset. That was what we expected they’d do, and we’re already prepared to handle it.
We’re telling you not to have expectations, instead, we’re wanting you to focus on helping your child move forward and improve where they’re at now. It’s meeting them at their level. We talked in greater detail about changing our thoughts in episode 1. We recommend you listen to it if you’re having trouble changing expectations for your ADHD child.
How to help a child with ADHD is to not compare them to other children and to focus on having realistic expectations of what they can do. As you believe in them and meet them where they are at, you are giving your child the tools they need to be successful as they will feel less judged and less pressure to be something they’re not.
By empowering ADHD parents with the mind frame to change the expectations for ADHD child, Siope Kinikini shows families how they can heal.
Visit the ADHD Smarter Parenting Podcast homepage: https://www.smarterparenting.com/adhd-parenting-podcast/
![Ep #5: ADHD strategies for kids with Tanya Stevenson](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ADHD-parenting-podcast-episode-5-ADHD-strategies_300x300.jpg)
Tuesday Apr 09, 2019
Ep #5: ADHD strategies for kids with Tanya Stevenson
Tuesday Apr 09, 2019
Tuesday Apr 09, 2019
Today you’re in for a treat as professional parent Tanya Stevenson shares the ADHD strategies she has used in working with challenging children. As a professionally trained parent in a group home setting, Tanya and her husband have parented countless kids with severe ADHD behavior. She’s dealt with hours-long tantrums and knows the frustration of kids not wanting to do their chores or get up in the morning. She 100% supports your caffeine addiction and believes it’s important for parents to have ADHD coping skills.
Many would say she’s crazy for continuing working with ADHD children, but she’s seen the success and long-term changes children can make because of the behavior skills of the Teaching-Family Model.
You don’t have to be a professional parent to learn to parent like one. Let that sink in. You can learn to be the best possible parent to your ADHD child when you put in the time and effort into learning behavior skills that will make a difference.
Like we referenced in podcast #1, ADHD interventions require you to change your expectations. We recommend going back and listening to it. For example, when working with ADHD kids, your new expectation may be giving your child 100 instructions instead of 10. Mentally preparing for 100 allows you not to get frustrated at number 11, or 68, or 83, or 99.
When you switch your expectations, you are focused on helping your child learn. It will take patience and effort, but implementing ADHD strategies will have great pay-offs.
No one is born knowing exactly how to parent. Join Siope and Tanya as they talk about how to deal with ADHD in a healthy and positive way by utilizing ADHD strategies that will empower you to be the best possible parent.
![Ep #4: My ADHD journey](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ADHD-parenting-podcast-episode-4-my-adhd-journey_300x300.jpg)
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Ep #4: My ADHD journey
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
There is hope at the end of the tunnel for kids with ADHD. ADHD Parenting Coach, Siope Kinikini, shares his journey with ADHD. When you’re dealing with challenging ADHD behavior, it can be hard to believe your child can be like others. An ADHD diagnosis seems isolating and stressful.
Siope was diagnosed with ADHD as a child in elementary school. Siope knew something was different when he couldn’t function like other in elementary school. Parent-teacher conferences were difficult for his parents as his teachers constantly harped on his inability to focus and function and labeled him defiant and lazy. Getting told these things from adults made it hard for him to build self-esteem and enjoy the learning process in school. Based on what he was hearing, he didn’t think he’d be successful, and that was difficult.
In college, he learned to view his ADHD as strengths and to harness those strengths. In college, he learned particular skills that allowed him to manage his ADHD and set goals that he could accomplish. He has continued to find long-term success as he’s managed his ADHD.
While many see ADHD diagnosis as a bad thing, Siope saw it as a blessing. Join Siope as he shares his experience with ADHD and gives you the hope that you can be successful in your ADHD parenting.
For full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/my-adhd-journey/
![Ep #3: Finding ADHD resources](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ADHD-parenting-podcast-episode-3-finding-adhd-resources_300x300.jpg)
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Ep #3: Finding ADHD resources
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Getting an ADHD diagnosis for your child is hard. Knowing what ADHD resources are available is one the ways to cope with ADHD behavior as it gives us a feeling of control in situations we feel are out of our control. Finding ADHD resources online can be overwhelming as there is a lot of out there, and it’s hard to know who are the ADHD specialists. Will their suggestion work for my child?
As an ADHD parent, you deal with different challenges and will know better than anyone where your child falls on the ADHD spectrum. Based on your research, you will start to apply things you think will work based on what you have researched. You may notice changes for awhile, but then your child may stop responding, and you feel like it didn’t work so back to studying you go.
Instead of picking one or two things from various approaches, Smarter Parenting is a comprehensive ADHD behavior plan. This comprehensive approach allows for greater success as it teaches you how to handle all stages of behavior, from preventing problems in helping children understand consequences.
Join ADHD specialist Siope Kinikini as he helps you understand why using the Teaching-Family Model will be the ADHD resource your family needs.
Full show notes and transcript visit: https://www.smarterparenting.com/finding-adhd-resources/
![Ep #2: Which is best? Behavior interventions or medication](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ADHD-parenting-podcast-episode-2-behavior-medication_300x300.jpg)
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Ep #2: Which is best? Behavior interventions or medication
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
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Behavior interventions or medication is a polarizing topic. Many believe that ADHD drugs are the cure-all for negative ADHD behaviors and that by giving their child ADHD medication, their child will be “normal.” There may be times when medication has its place in ADHD treatment, but it is not the cure-all. Parents need to be aware of the downsides of drugs and have an honest conversation with their doctor as they determine what ADHD treatment is best for their child.
No matter what you decide to do with medication, behavior interventions should always be part of your child’s ADHD treatment plan. Behavior modification will give your child the tools for long-term success. Behavior modification will allow your child to understand how to behave in various situations, reducing problem behavior.
Join ADHD Parenting Coach Siope as he shows you how to invest in changing your mindset and more quickly create the life you want for your ADHD child and your family.
Full show notes and transcript visit https://www.smarterparenting.com/what-is-best-behavior-interventions-or-medications/
![Ep #1: Welcome to the ADHD Smarter Parenting Podcast](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog4701387/ADHD-parenting-podcast-episode-1-transforming-adhd-mindset_300x300.jpg)
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Ep #1: Welcome to the ADHD Smarter Parenting Podcast
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Sunday Apr 07, 2019
Smarterparenting.com is excited to introduce the ADHD Smarter Parenting Podcast and the Smarter Parenting Club.
ADHD Parenting Coach, Siope Kinikini, shows parents how to help a child with ADHD transform their mindset to empower their child to find long-term success. Transforming ADHD parent mindset means transforming your expectations. When you transform your expectations you view your child’s ADHD diagnosis as a positive instead of a negative. Transforming ADHD parent mindset will take work but will produce the results you want in your life. Want less stress? Want stronger relationships? Want your child to be successful? All are possible when you transform your mindset.
Will there be challenges in raising an ADHD child? Yes. Raising an ADHD child is difficult because your child’s brain works differently, which will require you to do things differently. It will take effort not to become frustrated when your child's behavior is challenging. It will take effort not to judge or compare your ADHD child. It will take an effort to focus on their positives and not their negatives. It will take effort not to let ADHD become a label for them to hide behind.
Empowering ADHD child happens when you teach them behavior skills. Many parents struggle believing that their child can improve or change. Children can change when you give them the skills they need to be successful. When you transform your mindset, you won’t have to worry about the impact of ADHD on future success for your child because you’ll know that they can be successful!
Join Siope as he shows you how to invest in changing your mindset and more quickly create the life you want for your ADHD child and your family.
Full show notes and transcript: https://www.smarterparenting.com/transforming-adhd-parent-mindset/
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